Love is Love.

"Alexa, play 'I Feel Love' by Donna Summer."

Recently, Zaya Wade, daughter of Dwayne Wade, posted on Instagram photos of her relationship with her boyfriend, Hudson. This sparked quite a bit of controversy on social media, and I will get into that soon, but first a quick recap.

When Zaya was 12 years old, she told her parents that she was a trans girl. In order for Zaya to live her life openly and freely how she wanted, her family publicly shared her gender in February 2020. But before all that, when Zaya was 8 years old, she told her family she was gay. Fast forward to 2020, Gabrielle Union, Zaya's step-mother, uploaded a video on Twitter with the caption, "Meet Zaya. She's compassionate, loving, whip smart and we are so proud of her." Incomes the scrutiny from the media and public.

I'm not going to get into the backlash that occurred back in 2020, because I'm here to talk about love.

When I google, "What does love mean?", the first definition states, "An intense feeling of deep affection." Second definition states, "A great interest and pleasure in something." Now when I google, "What does love in a relationship mean?", the definition states, "A strong feeling of affection and concern toward another person, as that arising from kinship or close friendship." When I google, "What does love look like in a relationship?", it doesn't say anything about how it needs to be between a born female and a born male. Moving on...

So one evening when I came home from work, I was scrolling on Facebook and came across a shared post of Zaya Wade's Instagram post and the caption stated "So, Zaya Wade is in a relationship with another young Trans-Boy #lovewins". Someone who I have as a friend on Facebook shared that post and said "Idk anymore". From there all hell broke loose. You had the people who supported Zaya's relationship and the people who didn't. I am just putting it out there now, in case you didn't guess, I was one of the people who supported her relationship. I still do. I always will. Of course, I understand that people are people and we all think differently, as we were all raised differently. But we all accept each other... well, we all should at least.

The person who said, "Idk anymore", let's call him Andy, stated in the comments "they're targeting our children at this point and use celebrities to push their agenda." Another person asked, let's call him Derek, "How so?" Andy then replies and says, "You gotta research it yourself to fully understand." Derek and Andy are now going back and forth because, ultimately, Derek wants Andy to explain the agenda. Andy keeps insisting Derek look it up. Here comes little ole me coming in with my 2 cents stating how you can't insinuate about an agenda and then not state the agenda. All Andy needs to do is back up his comment with his paraphrasing of said agenda, which would/could result in that person looking more into it on their own time.

You can't just state for someone to look something up because you don't feel like teaching them. From there I started a debate. I stated further down in the comments, "Tell me how Zaya's relationship directly affects you. It doesn't. So just let love be love. So what if she is in a relationship with another trans person? Literally, just let love be love. It doesn't have to be between a male and a female. It can be between 2 males, 2 females, 2 trans, a dolphin and an octopus, a squirrel and a sea lion... literally just let love be love." I truthfully don't see the issue in Zaya publicly posting about her relationship. It doesn't personally affect anyone, but her and Hudson.

Another commenter stated, "Everything is not for social media. They could have kept this out of the public eye." Now I can agree with this. Everything is not for social media. I see it as a teenager in love that just wanted to post her boyfriend. Normal tweens, teens, and adults do it- why can't Zaya? Kids post their relationship just to post. It doesn't mean they are getting married tomorrow. It doesn't matter what age Zaya posts her relationships, she will always receive backlash and my heart breaks for her.

I was born straight and no one ever said I was too young whenever I had a crush on a boy. But all of a sudden, we need to question kids choices because they shouldn't know if they like the same sex or not? Shut your face.

I absolutely hate that we call it "coming out of the closet". There shouldn't be a closet to come out of. You should just be able to bring your significant other home to meet your parents and sit down for dinner, no questions asked as to why they are the same sex. I was born a female/girl, I identify as a female/girl, my pronouns are she/her/hers, and I like big butts and I cannot lie. Just a little jokey, joke... some light humor. No, but seriously, I identify with all those things (minus the big butts part), but I like men. If I came home with a guy, no one is going to gasp at the fact that I am dating a man. They just might gasp at the fact that I am dating, but not about who I am with. Literally, just love be love. Who the hell cares?

Just be unapologetically in love. #LoveWins #LoveisLove

Needless to say, Andy deleted his post about Zaya. And with that being said, if you're going to talk about... be about it.

(Part 2 coming soon).